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So, I think I'm finally doing this. Coming out to my parents by snail mail. I'm sending them a letter along with my Tuition tax slips. I'm not TOO worried, but know this is effectively throwing a live grenade up in the air.

I tried to keep the letter short and sweet, as past attempts seemed way too long-winded.

I guess I just want to get the fall-out over with. (Uhm, hopefully this isn't a condition of Post-Breakup stress ;P) ... At least one of my two older brothers know (I'm assuming they both know, as it's on Facebook and that's how the other saw haha). I realize I should say something besides having it on my facebook, but I really don't feel like having that conversation with my older brother/childhood best friend/current roommate... I'm just assuming they know. Kinda dangerous, but mehh.

Anyway, letter beneath the cut.

March 12, 2008

Dear Mom and Dad,

I am writing this letter to you because I want to be honest with you, and felt that phone or email was not the best medium to do so for this.

I am gay. I have known “for sure” since just prior to leaving for Japan, although I suspected I was before then (the end of high school) and had known I was not “normal” even earlier.

I was a late bloomer growing up, in terms of being interested in other people. I considered myself asexual through high school, and later on it took me awhile to figure out if I was actually gay, or just trying to be anything but asexual.

I spent a lot of time soul-searching before and after acknowledging this part of who I am. Obviously I am aware of what the common Christian views towards homosexuality are, however I do not share those views. Many of those views do not correlate to the original texts, not to mention that they were written in a much different context than today.

This is simply a part of me, just as much as cerebral palsy is a part of me. It does not define who I am, but it does change how I go about my life. I don’t think it is possible to change one’s attraction, simply whether or not one is honest to themselves or others about it. I would rather not “pretend” to be something until it hurts myself and/or someone else 10 or 20 years down the line.

I am telling you all this now because I do not like keeping secrets; they create even more barriers between people that are not necessary. This one has been around long enough, and I feel bad that it has taken me this long to speak up, but there hasn’t been an ideal time to bring it up.

I’m sure that with time, you will be able to process this. I have attached information on the nearest contact for PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) in case you ever want more resources.

I am still the same son you raised, and once again I regret keeping this secret for so long. I look forward to talking with you soon.



Now I just need to buy an envelope and a stamp :P

Date: 2008-03-12 06:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
*hugs and crosses fingers*

Date: 2008-03-12 06:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thanks. And I forgot who actually reads my "anonymous" LJ. LOL


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